Seriously, we as a society need to talk about the dominance
of cis het male sexuality as the fundamental power in this world. It shapes everything. Instead of worshipping singular lingams as
the collective of a father god, one who can own and dominate and control and
name after himself and hoard property to pass to the next version of himself,
all of us who are not c/h/m need to encircle this, like parents will encircle a
child having an epilepsy attack or something.
This is part of the bodies we live in- not just cis gendered males.
Even at a our simplest we are complex creatures and this is
our primal reptile brain. This thinking
is the outgrowth of the non-verbal
biological body saying "I must be a good mate that is fertile and strong
and propagates."
And that is getting interpreted through the mammal brain and
through the neo-cortex. Those sexual
impulses are the drivers of half our other impulses (fear of death).
Really a society based on nongendered sibling relationships
is our next step. But I think we are
going to need to go through a kind of sisterarchy first. A brief rule based on the ovarian reptilian
impulses will balance out the millennia of sperm rule.
Until then we are going to have this kind of violent
dominance of male sexual satisfaction as sovereign. In modern society this is predatory in a bad
way. Animal predators hunt for food to
eat. They don't overeat- only humans and
domesticated animals do that. Animal predators do not hoard, they do not
manipulate or torture.
And then in our modern society we have consumption sold to
us all day long by images that excite the cis het male brain. And those of us not ces hit male also like it
because we attain our own power or satisfaction by satisfying them. (In the car ad, the beautiful woman is wanted
by the het male, and the woman identifies with the woman as a powerful
attractor of mates and fathers for her children.) I don't think even 10% of the global
population is simultaneously aware of that in themselves and society, and able
to overcome it, or accept it, or deal with it in a way that is healthy for the
person and for everyone else.
And we aren't going to be able to deal with it until we talk
about how much most cis het men need sex, and need to feel like they are good
lovers and desirable mates.
Here is another in the same vein. In nature the successful male fights another male and wins or loses. He either impregnates and female or he doesn't. Animals don't commit suicide or kill a potential mate because she rejects them. (In species where this exists it is a specific adaptation. Animals are sentient and they do make choices, but we see that in domesticated animals- animals that have been shaped by human interaction for ages.)
This grown man's biggest two issues are sports teams and a movie. This is the threat to his masculinity.
